.How does one say goodbye?.

How does one say goodbye to their best friend, soul mate and lover?

That, I do not know.

Yesterday was a special and sacred day.  One in which I had the honour and privilege to stand amongst hundreds of sorrowful people, shed tears together, and remember Aaron King. 

I'm going to miss that funny guy.  The one who married my cousin 16 years ago.  I remember going to their wedding reception as a 14 year old girl, excited to see my beautiful "big" cousin all dressed up as a bride.  He was a quiet, shy guy back then.  It didn't take long for the real Aaron to emerge and I since have fond memories of him cracking joke after joke, always the funny guy...many of them at my expense.  As much as I used to hate being called "Aunty Ann" I'd give anything to hear it one last time.

I don't know why Aaron was taken from this earth at such a young age of 39.  I don't know why Lisa has to re-map her life as a single mother of 3 energetic boys, only months after losing her 10 year old son.  But I do know that what doesn't make sense and seem fair now, will make perfect sense in the eternities.  And while that certainly doesn't make life any easier, it gives some hope that all will be okay in the end.

I do know that we need to hug those we love a little tighter.  Don't be afraid to say "I love you" and tell someone what they really mean to you.  Life really is short, in some cases much to short.  Our time here on earth must not be wasted, make the most of every day and live it as if it was your last.    

 

How does one say goodbye to their best friend, soul mate and lover?

I still don't know.  I do know it is the most incredibly difficult, heart-wrenching and emotional roller-coaster of one's life.  And while I know the ride will not be over for a long, long time, I am so proud of Lisa and her boys and know that they will get through this.  One day at a time, as each tear is slowly replaced with faint smiles and memories of a husband and son, a father and brother that will forever be by their side.

(A fund has been set up for Lisa and her boys to raise money to help them get through the next months as they work through the pain they are feeling now.  Although no amount of money will erase the pain they are feeling, I know that not having any financial pressures over the coming months will help them immensely.  If you would like to do something to help, please go here to donate.  I am in awe every time I check the page and read the sweet messages from friends and strangers all over the world.  Thankyou x 100 for your kindness and generosity.  We DO live in a good world!)